Fuzzy Logic and Shizdom

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* Fuzzy Logic and Shizdom *
Here I will spout out thoughts, rants, and little nuggets to ruminate over.
Comment if you wish. Or point out things you have gleaned yourself.
Keep it thoughtful, deep, socially questioning, or any form of philosophy. 

Keep calm, and tell us what you think when you daydream.

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Yes, I am a guy
A rant.

Do not assume (if I hold the door for you),
that I am making a statement
about your inabilities
to open the door for yourself.
If you hold it for me,
I'll say 'Thank you'.

Do not assume (if I pay for the meal),
that I am underestimating
your earning capacity
as a woman.
If you invite me out for a meal,
you're paying.

Do not assume (if I defend your rights),
that I am belittling
the attempts that you have made
to defend your rights yourself.
If you defend my rights,
I'll consider you human.

Do not assume (If I randomly come up and compliment something),
that I am asking you for sex.
The petty outrage of being shutdown
because you feel I don't have the right to be attracted.
If you dressed and primp to look hot, 
Then take a compliment. 
A thank you is not "yes, do me."

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What we are to each other. 
An elaborate simile. 

The thing about empathy and experience.
We may not be totally the sum of our experiences, but they certainly color how we act.
Along with a societal multiple choice menu of do's and don'ts, we are not totally free willed. 

We are like ships upon the sea, each singular in what has happened to us. We have shared times when we are fleets, flotilla's and we are going in the same direction the same way. But is it really the same way? No, for as much as we share with each other our experiences are our own. We react, learn, and live our lives ourselves. When we hear a sad story, we go "I know how you feel." we empathize, but are we certain they are feeling it the same way? Some of what we do is project onto our idea's of their pain is our own reaction to it. Not a bad thing, it certainly brings a senses of connection. Trippy thing is they are doing the same thing, they are looking to our reaction to see if their own feelings are justified. 

It really is just a big world of "Do you SEE me? Do you Understand me?" I had to question for awhile if I was seeing other people. Truly seeing them for what they wanted me to see. I figured if I want others to see who I am, then I needed to listen to what they were really saying.